I can tell you this without a doubt – there is someone out there for everyone, no matter your physical appearance. People worry too much about how they look, as if that’s a major aspect of a relationship. Well I’m here to tell you it’s not!<\/p>\n
The only time looks really matter\u00a0are for\u00a0first impressions.\u00a0Your external visage\u00a0gets you in the front door, as it were – the second glance in a bar, the\u00a0free drink, the first date. After that, it’s all about what’s inside, baby. I know that sounds clich\u00e9d, but it’s true.<\/p>\n
(Keep in mind we’re talking real relationships here, not one-nighters or long-term slam pieces.)<\/p>\n
And of all the things inside you, such as your sense of humor, intelligence, quirks, pancreas, and liver,\u00a0the most important is confidence. Whether you’re male or female, a confident\u00a0person attracts<\/em>, period.\u00a0Someone who walks with their shoulders back and head held high, who’s not\u00a0an asshole but isn’t afraid of conflict (okay, maybe sometimes an asshole),\u00a0who moves through the world like they own<\/em> it. Someone without fear. People love that shit.<\/p>\n Note that experiencing self doubt and humility isn’t the same as lacking confidence; that just means you’re self-aware, which is what separates the wise from the fools. Nobody’s perfect, but being able to recognize your flaws and rise above them to take chances\u00a0anyway is the good kind of confidence.<\/p>\n For instance, maybe you’re a lady\u00a0on the heavier side of a bullshit standard for what a woman’s body should look like. The office Christmas party is coming up; it’s semi-formal. What to wear? Perhaps the red\u00a0muumuu with candy canes\u00a0for sleeves? Festive, right?<\/p>\n NO!<\/p>\n How about the mermaid cut black sparkly dress with the sweetheart neckline?<\/p>\n YES!<\/p>\n Okay, that seems pretty flashy. Should you shrug the dress on, then slink around the party embarrassed that people might be judging you for being too fat to wear such clothing?<\/p>\n NO!<\/p>\n Should you slap on some smoky eye shadow, deep port lipstick, and strappy heels,\u00a0sashay into that party knowing everyone’s staring at your boobs and not caring<\/em>,\u00a0then\u00a0ask out\u00a0that guy from Accounting you’ve been crushing on all year?<\/p>\n YES YOU SHOULD!<\/p>\n That’s how it’s done.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" I can tell you this without a doubt – there is someone out there for everyone, no matter your physical appearance. People worry too much about how they look, as if that’s a major aspect of a relationship. Well I’m here to tell you it’s not! The only time looks really matter\u00a0are for\u00a0first impressions.\u00a0Your external … <\/p>\n